The untold story of Marriage Dissolution

Life is so private that no one truly knows the treatment a man endures during a struggling marriage. Everyone talks about it, but no one pities the man when divorce happens. For divorcing her, he is always pictures as the villian, she is the victim.

Yes, u am a woman. And I have seen it happen I've witnessed cases of matrimonial distress up and close and what I've noticed so far is that the society paints the woman as the one who carries all the fault, even before the divorced is finalised. I' ll highlight few instances, for example a couplenof situation i have come across:

1. A wife who turned the child hearth against the father, not out of love, bit because she and the father had issue, she used the child as emotional compensation and in so doing created a bigger problem in future because it is being larlter discovered that the child will have little or no regard for their father

2. Or a wife who lied about going to a prayer mountain to pray to her husband and then absconded with there joint account savings and then files for divorce. No one talks about that, no one calls her out

I understand there is this Gen z era whereby women no longer tolerate what their mothers endured in marriage but I just feel that is going too extreme. Now I'm not saying men are perfect. Bit let's be honest, women also contribute to marriage breakdownsbso before we blame the man , let's ask; what did she do? What didn't she do?

But let's pause and think before we blame the man, have we asked what role did the woman played? Was she respectful? Was she supportive? Did she also fail in her duties?

Marriage is a partnership. And when it fails, it is rarely one person's fault alone. I'm not saying men are never wrong, they can be bit i am saying that women should also be held accountable. Not outnof hate for women but outbof love for truth and fairness. Because Justice, even in marriage shiloupd be balanced. In a marriage breakdown, it is always the men's fault? Or do we need to start having honest conversations about both sides?