
In modern relationships, there are a lot of unnecessary issues, clauses, and catches, especially amongst women.
The likes of Love bombing, gaslighting, breadcrumbing, triangulation, emotional blackmail and many more leave a lot of people in bad states mentally, that's why our generation has the highest rates of people in their 30s and 40s who are unmarried.
Imagine having unrealistic expectations from men, especially if you're into young guys in your age range. For instance, you're twenty-four and he's twenty-seven, and you expect him to have cars worth eight figures and living in Chevron or Lekki... ah ah achalugo, isn't that too much for a young man?
If younger guys are not able to give you the lifestyle you want, then you go for older men like 40+, because as an eighteen-year-old who has planned his life before he turns 30, I understand that as a man, your twenties are your most turbulent times as you're just finding your feet. But most women are indifferent and don't care about this obvious reality.
The reason for this is because women are used to being put on a higher level of life, especially in a relationship setting. A typical man's love life starts after 27 while a woman's love life ends at 27, because lowkey when a girl turns 18, a lot of options are available for her. And when I say options, I mean OPTIONS. Imagine a club releasing someone like Estêvão Willian for free; imagine all the clubs that would want to get their hands on the prospect. Such is a young lady, and the options in question have more resources, responsibilities, and maturity to handle her. While as a guy at eighteen, most of us haven't been in a relationship, and aside from what gives our age benefit from us, we can never end up together, except under a few circumstances, it's easier for women to get support from friends and family members and most especially men!!! Pretty Privilege, No Matter How Cute You Are As A Guy, When Your Broke Asides Your Savings No One Is Coming To Save You!!!!
Then imagine being a young guy who makes a decent income and tries to put his life together, getting pressured by his girlfriend of 24 who wants him to give her heaven and earth, ahn ahn, and the boy is managing a two-bedroom lmao 😹😂.
The painful thing for me is the fact that she's working as well, and then they'll hit you with the "Your money is our money, while my money is my money." Well, isn't that disgusting! So you're making money and you want to use another man to sponsor your lifestyle all because he loves you! God, what a damned generation I am in!!!!! , If you can no longer provide she starts ignoring your texts, giving you distance, becoming more toxic, brings in third parties into the relationship for "accountability".
Then when the guy cannot keep up, she tells him, "Look, if you cannot do it, another man will." Yes, that's true, but at a more expensive price, can you pay? . Although older men are more stable, would you want to risk ruining someone else's home? Would you like another girl your age having an affair with your dad? I guess not well that's for girls with home training.
The good news for men though: there's many fish in the sea, and as a man, if you take your time, your chances of falling into the materialistic trap are low!
The funny one to me is when she turns herself into a living commodity and hits guys with "You cannot even afford me" or................."I don't do small boys."
Guess what? Public Announcement, We're no longer in the 17th century. Slave trade ended a hundred years ago, there are billions of women, prettier, more intelligent, of higher value, more peaceful, and kinder than you left for me and a million others. If you're not bringing any value into my life, you're not getting a dollar from me ( IN CEO'S VOICE 😂😅). Nowadays loyalty is a fucked up concept because you feel your girl is loyal but she had seen more MANY MEN THAN 50 CENT . One for academic purposes, two or three for the money, one for reassurance, one for aesthetic reasons, one for car rides, one for chapel and attendance purposes and yet they say men are polygamous in nature, lol 😂😹.
Then when you say you don't do small boys and you go for an older man, you end up eventually with small boys, without a father, [and] no go-work. A relationship is meant to be a situation that should lead to a marriage, not a full adoption. It doesn't mean the man automatically becomes your dad and assumes your life responsibilities! We should allow love lead in relationships, wigs, handbags, sneakers, clothes, cars, iPhones and iPads will fade away but your integrity in the relationship and your age are things you should consider as a woman, isn't it better to be a woman of value and allow him to spend on you when you deserve it as if you are the one putting money in his pocket 😭. Then when it's over you move unto the next victim, yet you blame fraudsters what's the difference between both of you?
And as for the young guys, don't get pressured and make a fatal mistake because of a woman—there's plenty of options
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Mayowa Akintola-Daniels · Adeleke University, Ede
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